Don't Be a Dick: Change Yourself, Change Your World, Paperback

Why this book? Because you might be a dick: a mean-spirited, self-serving individual who thinks and acts as though everyone else in the world can only be understood--and whose only importance is defined--in terms of their relationship to himself or herself. That's right, herself. Because anatomical evidence aside, dicks can be women, too. Being a dick might feel powerful in the short-term, but it is probably not helping you much in the long-term, because this flawed character trait is exactly what is keeping you from attaining what you may want most: personal satisfaction, a steady job, a loving committed relationship, and/or lifelong friendships.

Anyone, at any time, can slip into being a dick--and many do. Yet Don't Be a Dick is especially for people who have noticed how their own behavior tends to backfire, leaving them feeling isolated or uncertain why their seemingly justified actions consistently have such poor results. If you're constantly using the refrain, "It’s not me, it’s them," whenever something goes wrong, Mark Borg is here to tell you that it is, in fact, you. The good news is there is something you can do to reverse these behaviors and live a happier, more fulfilling life.

Dr. Mark Borg is a licensed clinical psychologist/psychoanalyst who has been in private practice in New York City since 1998--and who works really hard at not being a dick. Originally from Southern California, he moved to New York in 1997 to accept the position of Director of Psychology at the 5th Avenue Center for Psychotherapy, a West Village community center that has been at the forefront on the community mental health scene since the early 1960's. Dr. Borg attended graduate school at the California School of Professional Psychology, where he earned both his master's degree and his PhD in a dual-track program in clinical and community psychology. While there, Dr. Borg served on a four-year community empowerment project that was developed in South Central Los Angeles in the wake of the 1992 riots. Also at that time, he conducted individual and group psychotherapy at the AIDS Services Foundation in Orange County, California. When he arrived in New York City, Dr. Borg trained in psychoanalysis at the William Alanson White Institute for Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology. Dr. Borg is the co-author of Irrelationship: How we use Dysfunctional Relationships to Hide from Intimacy and Relationship Sanity.